Are you facing some of the many challenges that come along with Co-Parenting?
Are you experiencing frustration due to lack of respectful/open communication?
Are you having transitional difficulties between homes?
Are you dealing with behavioral issues when they return home?
Are you living with fear, frustration, resentment, and/or guilt?
Do you have increased stress regarding the effects it may be having upon your child/children?
Co-Parenting can produce an enormous amount of stress. It requires empathy, patience, and open communication. When these are not present, the impact upon everyone can be extremely unhealthy.
So what is co-parenting?
Co-Parenting is any family situation where the children’s natural parents are not in a committed relationship. This kind of situation can take many forms that extend beyond divorced spouses.
For example, Co-Parenting includes former fiancés and boyfriend/girlfriends. It can potentially include surrogates and donors who have gained visitation rights.
Aside from these relationships, Co-Parenting can be further stressed for both parents and children with the introduction of stepparents.
One of the common traps of Co-Parenting is one parent attempting to become the “fun” parent while the other is left wrestling with being the “responsible” parent.
This often leads to resentment and increased tension between the Co-Parents, increased manipulation tactics and behavioral issues by the children, and increased dysfunction amongst everyone involved.
Likewise, inconsistency can also create issues; issues that were evident during the relationship and continue into Co-Parenting.
In addition to the various kinds of Co-Parenting relationships, the interaction of these adults can come in five main variations: According to “The Good Divorce” by Constance Ahrons these five types are:
1. High Interaction – High Communication: Co-Parents with strong/health relationships and solid communication.
2. Moderate Interaction – High Communication: Co-Parents with cordial relationships and solid communication.
3. Moderate Interaction – Low Communication: Co-Parents with sour relationships and little communication.
4. Low Interaction – Low Communication: Co-Parents with no relationship and little communication.
5. Non-Interaction – Non Communication: Co-Parents with no relationship and no communication.
Whether you are a parent frustrated by the stressors associated with Co-Parenting, a stepparent desiring to have a healthy/positive relationship with a child, or a couple embarking upon relationship changes that involve a child/children, The Center for Family and Crisis Counseling is her to help and support you.